Modelling the future
Updated: Sep 8, 2019
It’s not rocket science that this world is lacking in the wholesome representation of manhood. I know this because as a man in the making I’ve found myself worrying about how to raise my son. My little guy is almost 4 years-old now and I must say, I’m always in awe when I see his little self in action versus this little guy who once put me in my place in what seems like yesterday.
I know the Bible teaches us not to worry and best believe I’m trying not to, but if I was honest with you my confession would read like this.
“As I look at you my little boy I can’t help but think and feel how much a part of my heart you are. With each step you take as you run around and each thought that races through your mind before you look at your mom and I and smile, my heart melts. It melts and then sometimes it races. It races because I don’t know if I’m teaching you the right things. I don’t know if I’m good enough to be your dad.
I don’t know how to teach you to be the man that will make you the grounded man that will chase after God with all you are in a quest to understand His Kingdom and your assignment in it. The man who will not indulge in the things that destroy manhood. You know what I mean? Sex before marriage, drunkenness, addiction to drugs, pornography and so much more. The man who will one day marry a beautiful God fearing woman and will cherish her even through the trials that come with marriage. That man who is willing to change in order to cultivate and nurture his wife into the virtuous woman she was designed to be in Kingdom of God. That man against all odds who will be a present father to his children and instil biblical principles in his family. What’s crazy my boy is that I don’t know how to do it.”
That’s my confession, but with it comes a revelation. It is not I who has the power to do it, it is Him that I look up to that shows me. God will use me to be a dad to you my son because He has granted your mom and I the gift that is you. What I need to do is, look, listen and learn. What I see, hear and learn is what I will pass on to you so you too can do the same. When that cycle becomes the constant then manhood will flourish. You are my responsibility just as your mom and your sister are. I commit to modelling the future, I commit to speaking real manhood, God’s way into your life.
I love you.